I was wondering if anybody out there could advise me on if I'm completely out of my mind or have a point. Basiccaly my brother & his girlfriend are living with me at the moment and the situation came to a head last night so i was wanting independent opinions on if my expectations are too high or unreasonable

BACKGROUND (PET PEEVES)

The following are a few 'issues' I have with the girlfrien, my opinion is she has no respect and puts no thought into the household

- Make-up gets left on the bathroom counter (the bathroom is the size of a small ensuite, she did start putting it away after i got sick of picking it up and threw it all in the bin)

- She uses my things such as a new hairbrush which she broke and i had to replaced

- The kitchen looks like a bomb hit it every time she cooks

- She takes bowls & cuterly to work with lunch (im ok with that part) but it doesnt come back for months and only after i kept asking and kept putting a list of items on the fridge, and after i got them all back she has started doing it again. time for a recount to find out whats missing

- Clean & dirty clothes get left in washing machines, washing baskets or washing lines for days at a time

- She has two rabbits and a dove (did have mice) which she doesnt look after and I'm the one that checks and feeds them half the time (the last time she went near the rabbits was sunday when she gave them brocilli, I fed them properly on tuesday and moved them to fresh grass today)

- She occasionaly does not lock the front door

Now to the occurance last night which involved the last item above.

I got home yesterday morning from the gym after she had left for work to find the front door was unlocked (I have been testing the door before i unlock it myself) and so i left a not on the fridge along the lines of "Please lock the door as this morning it was left unlocked and someone robbed the place" I then proceeded to fill their esky which has been sitting on the lounge room floor for the last week with various items from socks to avocados and i also included the controller to brothers xbox (i apologise to all game freaks for this cardinal sin). Well when i got home which was about half an hour after the brother he basically threw a tantrum and managed to call me immature at the same time. I argued back that i was sick of the above issues, at which girlfriend responded that she would like to be able to have a taste of the icecream in the fridge before its all gone. Now i may be a little on the large size but i actually dont eat that much, in terms of the icecream given that i actually consider that they brought it and that i share a house with other people i only ever have 1 average bowl of it and leave the rest to them as they do seem to eat 4 times as much as me. I then went to the other side of the house and spent all afternoon and half the night crying as I had reached breaking point. Now, at 8.00 I went to hang my washing outside and found the jigsaw i have spent hours on has been half knocked on the floor and a note on the fridge basically saying "I would appreciate it if people would not pig out on the pasta sauce in the fridge as it was going to be our tea". Yes I had pasta for lunch because the chicken i had brought to use all got eaten on tuesday night by them and i havent a cent left to replace it, and i had what might equate to one cup of the sauce and there was more than enough left for them.

Anyway that was the end of it and i had calmed down this morning and come to the decision that if they can get over last night which i have then i dont have a problem with them staying, however i change my mind when i went to brush my teeth and found that she has also put soap on my toothbrush that it is time for them to go and will be telling them tonight that they have till the end of the month to leave.

So the question is am i being unreasonable to expect what i consider very basic things to be done? im willing to accept i could have handled my side of things differently, but trust me even when i have 'mentioned' something hasnt been done it does not seem to matter. sometimes actions speak louder than words.

I've got a mountain of work to get through today so i thought i would avoid it by updating my life.

Lets see, since the last blog, i have:

Finally got my new car, and am now spoilt with air conditioning, power steering and 4 hubcaps. Though it does need to go to the mechanics tomorrow as the radiator has a leak somewhere.

Got a couple of house guests (brother, his girlfriend, 1 dog, 2 rats & 3 mice) so i can now afford christmas. Apparently imnot allowed to feed the rats and mice to my cats.

My cousin had her 2nd baby boy on my nieces 5th birthday, the first boy shares a bday with another cousins kid.

My youngest brother has just finished his year 12 exams and has a guaranteed full time job lined up in retail at our local Mitre 10 which is better than the 2 years i spent unemployed after i finished school.

Other than that life has been boring as always, Sassy has been lending me books to read so i blame her for keeping me up at night. I've been growing grass and other plants in the cat enclosure and built a sand pit for their poo though ive still got to get the sand before they can use it. And of course work is never ending, which reminds me, better get back to it. See ya.

to record the passing of time than etching it on you hand.

This was my weekend -
Changed sheets on bed with help of cat - various scratches
Washed dishes and hit edge of baking tray - sliced hand
Mowed back yard and ran into tree - skin off knuckle
(no im not that stupid, tree was in garden and i knocked against branch as i was turning the mower around)
Pruned roses - various prickles
Pruned lemon tree (discovered lemon trees have spikes - various prickles
Sewed underwire back into bra after it poked me - various prickles

I also ran into doors and cupboards a couple of times with various body partt, and was walking round like an old granny after i had finished doing all this.

P.S All injuries were to the right hand, suprised it didnt detach and run away after all i'd put it through.

P.S.S I should finally get my new car by the end of the week

Well it was a cat and a cabbage patch doll, but its the same thing really. When i got up this morning she was lying in the middle of the lounge room when i know i had left her in the study. It has solved a mystery though, Sassy gave me a toy cat that i had sat beside her on the chair and its been wandering for the last couple of weeks but i wasnt sure if it was the cats or my brothers dog as i had been 'babysitting' them for the last 2 weeks.

Sassy took me to her farm on sunday. The baby moo cows are just as cute and entertaining as Sassy's blogs. I helped feed them their milk and got to see one being born (bit icky). By the end of the night it was the happiest & best dressed cow in the district, because it was so cold they put a jumper on it and a dose of brandy to keep it warm and hopefully alive during the night (It survived).

Moos to everyone

P.s. I brought a car at lunch time (Mitsubishi Magna). More details to come.

I wasnt going to bother buying the new Harry Potter book for a while cause i couldnt really be bothered but its been in the news and i realised as some point someone would inevitably spoil it for me so i was in target on sunday and it was there and i was there so i brought it. Havent read it yet though because once i pick it up i wont be able to put it down and i'd prefer to be awake at work. Unfortunately this morning the planning department started talking about who gets killed and where their up to in the book so i had to run away so i could keep my innocence. Will read it uninterrupted this weekend.

Went and read the local paper instead and the front page had a photo of a couple of teenages on the front page, one was pointing a rifle point blank at the others head, idiots had put this on myspace and now local police are investigating. Charges: Stupidity.

Saw the latest Harry Potter movie last night. Thumbs up all round, definetly not one to take the kids to though. Saw it with my brother who is staying with me this week while the parents are in darwin. I currently require a hip replacement as i walked his dog monday night and now have a sore hip. Christopher wanted to play my sims2 game so went to get this disc but it was missing, he had me looking everywhere for it because i had only had it a couple of days before, I even went and searched the recylcing bin but couldnt find it anywhere, turns out the expansion pack i had only comes with one disc which was exactly where it was supposed to be. Kids who needs them .

Anyhow I got a new work computer yesterday and am now getting used to the bigger screen. The good thing is its a smaller 'box' so i have more desk space which was much appreciated. OK, back to work, hope your all enjoying the sunshine as it will be a nice balmy 17 degrees here today.